Dude, You're a Fag

"In this superb ethnography of daily life in a contemporary high school, C. J. Pascoe highlights the sexualized dynamics of youthful masculinity. With vivid detail and perceptive analysis, she examines the 'fag talk' which pervades boys' conversations; the convergence of gender, sexual, and racialized practices in school rituals like the 'Mr. Cougar' contest; and the experiences of girls who display themselves as masculine. The result is a book that breaks fresh ground in masculinity and gender studies-and is a very good read!"
--Barrie Thorne, author of Gender Play: Girls and Boys in School

"High school and the difficult terrain of sexuality and gender identity
are brilliantly explored in this smart, incisive ethnography"

Based on eighteen months of fieldwork in a racially diverse working-class
high school, Dude, You're a Fag sheds new light on masculinity both as
a field of meaning and as a set of social practices. C. J. Pascoe's
unorthodox approach analyzes masculinity as not only a gendered process
but also a sexual one.

She demonstrates how the "specter of the fag"
becomes a disciplinary mechanism for regulating
heterosexual as well as homosexual boys and how the "fag discourse"
is as much tied to gender as it is to sexuality.

Paperback: 240 pages
Publisher: University of California Press; 1 edition (June 4, 2007)
Language: English

C.J. Pascoe is Postdoctoral Scholar with
the Digital Youth Project at the Institute
for the Study of Social Change,
University of California, Berkeley.

The Big Penis Book

When it comes to pleasure, size doesn't matter, as we all know it's quality, not quantity that counts. But let's admit it: a big penis is undeniably compelling, and for us gay men it is arouses primal urges. Big shoulders, big lapels, and big hair may come and go, but the big penis never goes out of fashion. With those possessing more than 8 inches making up less than 2% of the world's population, this rare accessory will always fascinate and stimulate.

In The Big Penis Book, we explore the centuries-old fascination with the large phallus, a fascination common to men and women alike. This hefty book is profusely illustrated with over 400 historic photos of spectacular male endowments, including rare photos of the legendarily hung John Holmes. The majority of the photographs are from the 1970s, when the sexual revolution first freed photographers to depict the male entirely nude. Photographers include Bob Mizer of AMG, David Hurles of Old Reliable, Colt, Falcon, Sierra Domino, Third World and Champion Studios, with each of these iconic photographers interviewed or profiled, along with information about each of their models.


Dimensions: 12 X 12
Photos: Black & White and Color
Publisher: taschen
year of released: 2007

Atheist on God

"well i had to say
this book is interesting that i couldnt put it down.
i have to explore deeper of what they [who disbelieve) think on this God thing
may be some alternative perception about nature or religion.
coz religion itself is not absolute.
when it said to be Righteousness then it could be unrighteousness.
so i look for more than just a bible to read and to husk,
to pare the s.screen on this problem.
may be it's sin to me who believe in chatolic.
but i dont care.
i have to confess that my curiosity encourage me always
to search more of what other people think on this"

ok let's check about this description below:
Richard Dawkins was recently voted one of the world's top three intellectuals (alongside Umberto Eco and Noam Chomsky) by Prospect magazine. As the author of many classic works on science and philosophy, he has always asserted the irrationality of belief in God and the grievous harm it has inflicted on society. He now focuses his fierce intellect exclusively on this subject, denouncing its faulty logic and the suffering it causes.

While Europe is becoming increasingly secularized, the rise of religious fundamentalism, whether in the Middle East or Middle America, is dramatically and dangerously dividing opinion around the world. In America and elsewhere, a vigorous dispute between "intelligent design" and Darwinism is seriously undermining and restricting the teaching of science. In many countries religious dogma from medieval times still serves to abuse basic human rights, such as those of women and gay people and all from a belief in a God whose existence lacks evidence of any kind.

Dawkins attacks God in all his forms, from the sex-obsessed, cruel tyrant of the Old Testament to the more benign, but still illogical, Celestial Watchmaker favoured by some Enlightenment thinkers. He eviscerates the major arguments for religion and demonstrates the ultimate improbability of a supreme being. He shows how religion fuels war, foments bigotry and abuses children. In The God Delusion, Dawkins presents a hard-hitting, impassioned rebuttal of religion of all types and does so in the lucid, witty and powerful language for which he is renowned. It is a brilliantly argued, fascinating polemic that will be required listening for anyone interested in this most emotional and important subject.



God Delusion

Hardcover: 416 pages
Publisher: Bantam Press; 1st edition (2 Oct 2006)
Language English
Audio book & CD

The Crisis, 40 stories

Depression, fear, rejection, persecution, and isolation
these becoming kinda Trauma for much gay juvenile in USA
they are the victim of homophobia and discrimination.


"Crisis:
40 Stories Revealing
the Personal, Social, Religious Pain
and Trauma of Growing Up Gay in America"

a book by Mitchell Gold (Author), Mindy Drucker (Author)

[This book is for: clergy, parents, educators, and politicians who cause harm with their words and actions; parents of gay teens; teens navigating this difficult time; and fair-minded people who want to help end the harm. Here are revealing stories by forty diverse Americans, some well known and some not, plus insights from straight clergy and parents explaining their support of gay people as whole human beings guaranteed equal rights by our Constitution]

i think this book could be the solution and the support
to encourage to whom he could be
the one of in mental crisis who facing the descrimination in their society.
there are a lot of stories where they tell us about their life
offering us support and looking at gay people for what they are--human beings who are guaranteed equal rights but may not get them because they are guilty of loving people of the same sex as they are.

i think it is an interesting book that we should read.
dont missed it.

Bobby blake

Aka: Edgar Gaines
Birthday June 17, 1968
Astrology Gemini
Years Active 1992-2008 (Started around 24 years old)
Ethnicity Black
Nationality/Heritage No data
Hair Color Bald
June, 2008: Published his autobiography (co-authored with John R. Gordon) titled "My Life in Porn: The Bobby Blake Story" (Running Press).


Who is Bobby Blake?
Bobby Blake is one of the top African-American superstars in the world of gay porn!
You didn't know that? Well, I didn't either, but sometimes the truth hides and you have to go find it.
Blake is a bisexual businessman, former minister and now writer. His new autobiography is My Life in Porn: The Bobby Blake Story.
Blake has been retired for 10 years, probably why some of us don't know of him.

Among his many opinions, Blake does not believe in gay marriage. "Being reared in the church and in the strongly knitted African-American community," Blake says, "our environment is different than our counterparts', so our philosophy, theology and concepts are somewhat different. [Whereas] our counterparts may want to make universal acceptance of gay marriage a goal, my goal is to make equality universal."



If you thought that comment didn't really make sense, because legalizing gay marriage is part of making equality universal, then you were correct.

Brown continues, "Now, you want me to support your gay-marriage agenda; you get mad because the heterosexual community frowns upon it. But yet, you want to mistreat minorities that are gay and bisexual just like you are. In other words, you want preferential treatment but you don't want to give the same treatment. In other words, it's OK for me to support your gay-marriage amendment, but it's not OK for me to come into your gay [clubs]."

Last time I checked, gay marriage was available for gay minorities, and majorities treating minorities better and the legalization of gay marriage were not mutually exclusive goals. In fact, some might say they were both part of that equality thing.

Adding another layer of complexity, even mystery, Blake adds, "I told you how I feel about gay marriage, but if you send me an invitation to your wedding, I'll come and support you."

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Bobby Blake bares all
Extended for the Online Edition
by Andrew Davis
2008-07-09

A decade ago, Bobby Blake was known as one of the top African-American superstars ( if not the top one ) in the world of gay porn. Last week, Blake—a bisexual businessman and minister who was in Chicago as part of Windy City Black Pride's celebration, and who is promoting his book, My Life in Porn: The Bobby Blake Story—told Windy City Times why he left porn, why he is against same-sex marriage and what he thought of the city holding two Black prides.
Windy City Times:
The title is My Life in Porn, but you actually discuss your entire life.

Bobby Blake: Yes. I used “My Life in Porn” because a lot of people know me from porn and I used “The Bobby Blake Story” because I want [ readers ] to know the beginning and the period in which I participated in porn up until now.

My life is like that of the prodigal son [ in the Bible ] . I also talk about when I was in the hospital a long time [ after being born ] and being a sick baby. I talk about my transition from one relationship to another, and different circumstances in those relationships. Through it all, it was a learning process and it made me strong. I talk about the porn industry as a whole. It's a book of entirety.

WCT: Now, are you retired from porn?
BB: I've been retired for about 10 years now.


WCT: And why did you retire?
BB: I wanted to do something different. I didn't go into the porn industry to stay for a lifetime; I went into it with a business mind. From day one, I approached it in a manner that it would produce fruit for me. That's what so many people lack: They have fun and they look at today and not at tomorrow. I took a business approach and it paid off; I'm very grateful for that.

I've always been a businessman. Everyone who does a movie is not a star. [ I knew ] where my head was and the way I carried myself—with respect. I wasn't trying to win a popularity contest.

WCT: And you're a minister …
BB: Well, I was a minister before I went into porn; I stepped down. Now, I'm very active in the church, and I enjoy helping people across the board.

WCT: Do you have a church right now?
BB: I'm a member of a church. I'm not a pastor right now.

WCT: Were you ever the head of a church?
BB: I was an intern [ before dropping out to work in porn ] . I'm at the same level now that I was before. I enjoy doing what I do.

WCT: Gotcha. What part of the book was the hardest to write?
BB: I don't think there was a hard part.

WCT: No? I didn't know if writing about the abusive lover or your biological mother [ who had mental problems ] was tough to write about.
BB: I was not hard to write about because you have to [ take ] a direct approach to reality—and sometimes, reality does not taste good to you. I've come to find out that the book has helped so many people who are dealing with issues in their gay lives. I talk about gay marriage and I talk about political issues.

WCT: Yes. I want to discuss that with you. So what is your reaction to what has happened in California with gay marriage?
BB: Well, I don't believe in gay marriage.

WCT: Because …
BB: To be honest with you, I'm from the South. Being reared in the church and in the strongly knitted African-American community, our environment is different than our counterparts', so our philosophy, theology and concepts are somewhat different. [ Whereas ] our counterparts may want to make universal acceptance of gay marriage a goal, my goal is to make equality universal.


So often, when minorities go to Caucasian clubs, they have to show two or three [ pieces of ] ID to get in. I'm sure you remember the situation in San Francisco that [ then-Mayor ] Willie Brown had to mediate. Now, you want me to support your gay-marriage agenda; you get mad because the heterosexual community frowns upon it. But yet, you want to mistreat minorities that are gay and bisexual just like you are. In other words, you want preferential treatment but you don't want to give the same treatment. In other words, it's OK for me to support your gay-marriage amendment, but it's not OK for me to come into your gay [ clubs ] . I find the scale unbalanced. And I'm not a prejudiced man; I've dated all races. But we can't sweep things under the rug—the dirt will become mud.

WCT: What's the biggest misunderstanding that people have about porn actors?

BB: It's just like what you said: “actors.” They are acting; it's not the real person. That's been the major problem, especially when it comes to Bobby Blake. They expect me to be one thing when I'm something different. People are afraid of me. They think I'm evil, but that was the character I played in the movies. I'm down-to-earth and caring. We can even agree to disagree; I told you how I feel about gay marriage, but if you send me an invitation to your wedding, I'll come and support you.

I was telling a group of people about the Black prides here, and it's very sad. I want you to put this in for the record: They have two different Black prides here. Two groups can't get along. Barack Obama has an opportunity to become the first Black president, but Black folks can't even get along. You have to work on those things that affect the community. This weekend, I've seen a people divided.

Even with my visit at the [ North Side club ] Prop House [ at the official Windy City Black Pride men's party ] , I saw some things by management that were very disappointing. They were not concerned about their clientele; they had guests ( other porn stars ) and acted like they didn't know them. I was heartbroken over how they were treated. They treated me right, but I didn't like how they treated the other guests; it left a bitter taste in my mouth. I want the owner to know that I was very disappointed, and I'll tell that everywhere I go. It's sad.

[ Note: In response to Blake's comment, Bernard, a manager at Prop House, told Windy City Times that Blake “called us because he wanted to sell his book at [ the club ] , and it was OK because we have an open-door policy towards anything involving the Black gay community.” He added that “one porn star was showing off porn on his laptop, and you can't [ show ] porn at a club that serves liquor. [ Co-worker ] Kerry told him he couldn't do that, and acted out of hysteria, but he didn't mean to be rude to him. … And as far as them being treated badly? No. We allowed them to come in and give away their products---but you can't get naked here. … I'm upset with Bobby about this, especially [ considering ] we made arrangements for him to be here, and I'm pretty sure his book sold out. ]


We don't want to treat each other right, and that includes the African-American community. People get upset when an African-American brother wants to spend his life with a Caucasian. Something's wrong with that. We should be allowed to choose who we want to spend our life with.

WCT: What do you want people to take away from your book?
BB: So many readers have been helped by the book. I want people to get to know the real person—and to know the journey that has made Bobby Blake the man he is today: a humble, strong, open-minded and wise individual. I hope that the book will inspire and encourage people to open their minds for equality for all.

WCT: Are you happy with where your life is?
BB: I'm extremely happy. I'm a firm believer that all things work together. Every mountain, every stop sign, every yield sign—all of things have worked together for my good and have made me the person I am today.

WCT: What's in your future?
BB: I went back to school and got a degree in criminal justice. I am now working on my master's in business legal studies. I want to teach law. You have to plan for tomorrow today, and yet live today. Whatever you have in your heart to do, don't wait until tomorrow; tomorrow may be too late.

My Life in Porn: The Bobby Blake Story is available at Unabridged Bookstore, 3251 N. Broadway, and other fine bookstores. For more on Blake, see www.BobbyBlake.net .

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Feel the beat

The Tricky part

a Confession of Martin moran childhood life.
To everyone else in the Denver neighborhood where he grew up in the '70s,
Moran was a studious Catholic boy. No one knew he carried a secret that
would fester for 30 years and lead to extreme anxiety,
sexual compulsion and suicide attempts.

At age 12 he met Bob, a church camp counselor in his 30s who,
for several years, took Moran hiking and camping, and had sex with him.
Moran painfully recounts the inner workings of a lonely,
insecure adolescent who, out of a desperate need for friendship and acceptance,
continued a sexual relationship with a man 20 years his senior.

Feeling guilty and shameful regarding the affair and his homosexuality,
Moran lived a life in which the erotic and the illicit fused,
and compulsive sex became a means of self-punishment.
Over the years, Moran, now a writer and actor, managed to glean bits of
guidance and self-acceptance from his aunt, a contemplative nun;

a New Age music teacher; friends; and eventually,
recovery groups and therapy. Moran's Catholic-American gothic
differs from other abuse/recovery/coming-out memoirs in that it
examines a uniquely gay mind/body split as it subtly reflects on
a gay man's spiritual quest for self-determination and love.

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Moran, now 42, gives a compelling account of his seduction, at age 12,
by a counselor at his Catholic church camp,
and their ensuing three-year relationship.

He describes his gradual addiction to the sex itself,
with no love attached, which he still sees repeated in his brief liaisons
in parks and restrooms, despite 15 years with his partner, Henry.

He remembers enjoying the concealment from friends and parents
of his involvement with Bob, 20 years his senior.
He recounts how he descended from "the top of the Catholic heap" in junior high
to thoughts of suicide when he felt that his deeds
"stuck to [him] like a bad smell." Moran discovers acting,


then joins a men's support group for survivors of sexual abuse, and is amazed at "how much energy it takes in the present to continually dismiss the past." His is a poignant and provocative memoir that delves behind the titillating headlines to reveal what's really at stake when children are sexually abused by authority figures.
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The Trouble with Islam

please click on the tittle above about the writing on this book.

This "call for reform" reads like an open letter to the Muslim world. Irshad Manji, a Toronto-based television journalist, was born to Muslim parents in South Africa. Her family eventually fled to Canada when she was two years old. Manji shares her life experiences growing up in a Western Muslim household and ask some compelling questions from her feminist-lesbian-journalist perspective. It is interesting to note that Manji has been lambasted for being too personal and not scholarly enough to have a worthwhile opinion. Yet her lack of pretense and her intimate narrative are the strengths of this book.

For Muslims to dismiss her opinions as not worthy to bring to the table is not only elitist; it underscores why she feels compelled to speak out critically. Intolerance for dissent, especially women's dissent, is one of her main complaints about Islam. Clearly, her goal was not to write a scholarly critique, but rather to speak from her heartfelt concern about Islam. To her fellow Muslims she writes:
I hear from a Saudi friend that his country's religious police arrest women for wearing red on Valentines Day, and I think, Since when does a merciful God outlaw joy—or fun? I read about victims of rape being stoned for "adultery" and I wonder how a critical mass of us can stay stone silent.

She asks tough questions: "What's with the stubborn streak of anti-Semitism in Islam? Who is the real colonizer of the Muslims—-America or Arabia? Why are we squandering the talents of women, fully half of God's creation?" This is not an anti-Muslim rant. Manji also speaks with passionate love and hope for Islam, believing that democracy is compatible with its purest doctrine.

Sure, she's biased and opinionated. But all religions, from Christianity to Buddhism to Islam should be accountable for how their leadership and national allegiances personally affect their followers. One would hope that this honest voice be met with a little more self-scrutiny and a little less anti-personal, anti-feminine, and anti-Western rhetoric. --Gail Hudson --

Courage

From Publishers Weekly
Set in the rough neighborhoods of South Boston,
This Thing Called Courage
is a collection of seven moving stories
dealing with sexual desire among young,
working-class Irish Catholic men.

Author J.G. Hayes does an excellent job of
capturing the conflicting emotions of his characters
as they wrestle with "some bastard child of... shame and desire."

In "Jimmy Callahan, Married, Three Kids,"
a firefighter is drawn to a widowed co-worker;
the narrator of "The Rain" suffers a breakdown
after a beloved friend plummets to his death;

and in the title story,
a repairman recalls an ill-fated affair
with his high school gym teacher.

These stories, often bleak but always deeply moving,
are a welcome addition to the Boston Irish subgenre of hard-knocks fiction.
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.
--This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

From Booklist
*Starred Review* Characters' streams of
consciousness and pop-cultural memories collide and
overlap in Hayes' impressive stories about South Boston,
where a cool D-Street boy would rather die
than be thought of as a "faggot,"

and its resident "southies."
In "Regular Flattop,"
one death conflicts with another,
leaving a teen boy bereft,
struggling to honor a promise made to his dying father
and torn by his desires to live authentically.

In "This Thing Called Courage," a butch 30-ish dude proves,
seemingly unaccountably,
capable of sophisticated recognitions of
Aubusson carpets and pricey Balinese masks
in the patrician condo to which he comes to fix the heat;

but then he has an anxiety attack,
because this apartment was once his high-school locker room,
scene of the reason for his anxiety.

The gentrifying neighborhood cracking down
on the guys from the nearby projects is
the background for the characters' worlds of internal torment and hope.

After such an auspicious debut,
we impatiently await Hayes' next effort. Whitney Scott
Copyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

Publisher: Haworth Press